The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. — Mark Twain
Do you know your purpose? Your reason for living? Your specific calling? Assignment in life? Your destiny?
It may sound a little cliché, but research proves those with a purpose live a longer and better quality life than those who don’t.
BUT… are you at HIGH RISK of attaching your WORTH to what you DO?
Have you met someone for the first time who asks you, “What do you do?” And let’s just get real here for a moment — don’t we want some impressive title that will raise their eyebrows in admiration? “Wow, you’re a Multi-faceted International flonstraprenoneur?”
Now, don’t rush off and google that, I made it up. But do try and say it 10 times fast!
The point is, majority of humans get their worth from what they do. So what happens if for some reason or season we are unable to “do”? An injury, illness, move, financial crisis or retirement? Are we still worthy if we can’t do? Who are we if we are not our title? Here’s a little test: if you are a parent and a business person, when someone asks you what you do, do you say, “I’m a mum / dad”? Or do you say your business role? My question is, Why?
Most often the answers are entwined around the feeling of worthiness. This worthiness is derived from the respect of others due to what we do, NOT WHO WE ARE. We are allowing external factors to control how we feel! Giving our power and control of our worth over to other people, circumstances and events — i.e. “If they see me as worthy, then I will feel worthy.”
Hang on just a minute! Now that it’s been said out loud, that doesn’t seem right! “I don’t want to be controlled by anyone or anything!”
Great! Let’s take back the reigns. The ‘rules’ of our worth need to be INTERNAL. Ask yourself, “What has to happen for me to feel worthy?” Then make a list noticing if your answers are based on internal or external factors. Are you giving control of how you feel away or are you in charge?
External factors might sound something like: “When someone tells me I have done a good job” or “When I see there is enough money in my bank account to provide comfortably for my family”. Internal factors could be something like, “I am worthy because I’m alive”, “because I am loved”. Imagine how you would feel each day if all you had to do to experience worthiness was to breathe!
Now, that’s not to say once we acquire that feeling of worthiness, we then sit on our butts for the rest of our lives offering no contribution. What it does offer us and the rest of the world is a solid foundation of innate security for us to grow and develop self and others, making this world a better place for generations to come.