When we think of leadership, vulnerability is not usually what comes to mind. Instead we think of leaders as strong — strong enough to face challenges, take charge, lead the way and build leadership skills in others.
However, there is a place for vulnerability in leadership. Showing vulnerability actually takes strength. You need to be a strong, confident leader to be comfortable enough in your own skin to let others see your struggles.
It also requires you to step right out of your comfort zone. Remove the façade of having it all together, show your team that you too have fears, weaknesses and that sometimes you don’t have the answers. It will be very liberating and it will open up the communication and contribute to trust building with your team.
If you aren’t sure just what being a vulnerable leader looks like, consider the following:
1. Open up about your fears
We all have things we worry about or that we find difficult. Rather than put on a brave face, let your team know that you are concerned. That sends a clear message that we all have fears, every one of us. Sharing your own fears increases the likelihood that your employees will also share theirs. It’s a great exercise in leading by example; know your fears and face them anyway.
2. Hold yourself accountable
Admitting your mistakes will go a long way in building relationships with your team. We all make mistakes, that’s a part of being human. It’s good for them to see that we can make mistakes and still be successful. If it is appropriate, a well-placed apology for mistakes that impact others also go a long way in building credibility and integrity with your team.
3. Share your challenges past and present
We don’t need to pretend that everything is smooth sailing. Some things are challenging, that’s part of the journey. By sharing your challenges with your team you are letting them know that there will be times their job will be difficult, and that this is par for the course. Sharing older challenges you faced and overcame will send the clear message that the path to success is not always easy, but it’s worth the effort. Challenges will be there and they can be overcome.
4. Ask for help
It is natural for employees to go to the leader for assistance, that’s the role of a leader. What is nice is when the leader actually goes to the team and asks for help. It is empowering for them to know that they can contribute and they will appreciate you admitting that you need assistance sometimes.
5. Give a little of yourself
A few minutes spent having a laugh or sharing a funny personal story gives your team an insight to you as a person rather than just as the all competent leader. It will also encourage them to share little anecdotes about their life. Nothing relaxes the office atmosphere and contributes to a positive workplace culture like a good laugh.
