The adage, “you achieve what you believe” is so true! Henry Ford said, “whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you’re right!” Our beliefs around our identity & what we are worth are the deepest level of our subconscious neural programs. Whatever is written here will dictate our results – Success or Sabotage!
Even if you have the most amazing “SMART” goals and a brilliant plan to achieve them, if you do not believe you are worthy of them at this subconscious level, YOU WILL SELF-SABOTAGE! It’s just how we are hard-wired as human beings. We won’t cross our core values or beliefs!
The three biggest hindrances to achieving success lie deep in our subconscious. As the name suggests, we are often not even aware of these sabotaging pitfalls that are the programs we are running on. The big three are guilt, shame & un-forgiveness.
On the surface, one may laugh wondering how these could possibly stop me achieving my goals? Especially for one who is so determined and strong-willed as I? But when we look at the complexity of our human “system” – our mind, emotions, central nervous system, sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, to name a few components, it is like an iceberg. Where the part we can see, or are consciously aware of is above the water. Here lie our goals and plans.
However, the majority of what is anchoring or controlling the direction of the iceberg as well as its outcomes, (Success or Sabotage), is what is unseen, below the surface. Here is where our neural programs dwell. The core of which is our identity – what we believe we are worth. The simple equation is we will achieve what we believe we are worthy of. Our worth is directly affected by the big three: guilt, shame & un-forgiveness.
The first two are reasonably self-explanatory. Un-forgiveness is a double-edged sword. We hold un-forgiveness towards others which binds us emotionally to that person or event that hurt us in the first place. Scientists have stated that over 95% of all diseases begin in the mind. Our mind, or thoughts, create emotions. Negative emotions affect us physically creating dis-ease and ultimately disease.
Secondly, we can hold un-forgiveness toward ourselves. Sometimes we are willing to forgive the ones who hurt us but we cannot forgive ourselves. This then vastly impacts our self-worth at a subconscious level if not consciously as well, ultimately affecting our levels of success or sabotage.
So, take a moment to do an emotional stock take. Are you harboring un-forgiveness, guilt or shame towards self or others? If so, what do you need to let it go? Forgiveness is all about perspective. It does not make the wrong OK, it offers you freedom from the pain, to disconnect and disengage with those who hurt you.
When we clear out these three major roadblocks, success grows exponentially!