Try this proven Neuro Success TM strategy by Simone Leslie. Have you ever been in a situation where part of you wants to move forward yet part of you is holding you back? It might be business or financial. You want to create more wealth, step out, invest; but a part of you says, “What if we lose it all?” Maybe it’s health: you want to break out of your comfort zone, start a new healthy regimen; but there is a part that says, “Let’s just stay where it’s comfortable. Chocolate is too good to give up!” How about relationships? Part of you wants to go deeper, expose your true feelings; but there’s a part that screams, “What if we get hurt?” It doesn’t matter what area of life this two-step-forward-three-step-backward shuffle effects. This Neuro Success TM strategy is the antidote that offers peace and free flowing movement into your future. Let me begin by explaining: “Every negative behaviour has a positive intent!” This is the fundamental wiring of human behaviour. For example, when newborn babies cry (perceived a negative behaviour), they are not doing so simply to annoy us. The positive intent is to fulfil a need the babies have. They could be hungry, hot, cold, scared, wet or just needing to be loved. Their crying is a signal to achieve the outcome they desire. This never changes no matter how old we are. The perceived negative behaviour we produce today is still actually trying to fulfil a need we have. All we have to do is find out what the need is and then fulfil it in a healthier, more supportive way. Here’s How:
- Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the centre.
- Name each part, the one that wants to move forward and the one that is holding you back. It could be “billionaire,” “adventure,” “freedom,” “love,” “fear,” “loss,” “hurt,” or whatever that part represents to you. Write each part title on either side of the line.
- Under the part wanting to move ahead, write a list of what it gives you. For example, under “billionaire” might be “financial freedom,” “adventure,” “security,” “choice,” “travel,” or “happiness.”
- Do the same for the part that’s holding you back. Once you have exhausted your list, take another look at what you have written on this side. If all these answers still seem negative, dig a little deeper. It will break down to something positive. If it’s not positive, it’s not yet finished!
After almost 20 years of taking people through this exercise, I’ll let you in on the general fast-track breakdowns:
- Fear/anger – is often the “protector” or “wisdom.”
- Sadness/depression – “self love/care/nurturing”
Think about this one: Most people I work with are amazing givers. They sometimes give to the detriment of themselves and can become exhausted. This can lead to sadness and depression. When we are depressed, we often isolate ourselves, have a cup of tea, glass of wine, eat a Tim Tam, etc. It is in this state we are actually allowing ourselves to have “me time,” making ourselves a priority over every other demand on us at that time! (Yes, big revelations!) Both sides will always break down to positive intentions. When we examine them, we see that both sides need each other, working together for the greater good for you as a whole, not fighting each other!
- Each part should now be willing to work together to achieve the greatest outcome. If you feel you need any other character trait, add it in here. For example, in order to make a financial decision, you may want to add wisdom and/or courage.
- Imagine you could hold each part in each of your hands. Bring your hands slowly together as if you are holding something. Now, add any new character parts you desire. If you can’t visualise it, just get a sense of it.
- Choose where you would like to place this new team, in your head, heart or both. Then place your hands wherever you chose and imagine the new team of parts integrating into you, ready to move you into an amazing future. You may like to imagine what it would be like in a week, month or year, with this new supportive neural pathway!
Its amazing what can happen when we allow ourselves to go back to basics. Childlike simplicity is what our brain thrives on to create change. Trust and try it, I dare you!